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I've been following the latest LJwtf and going to work, pretty much. Managed to wear a skirt today, and I think every single person I work with complimented it.
( Follow Friday )Links
( 7 links )Plans
Get rained on and blown about. Hope the power stays on long enough to to chat with C. for a good long while. Drive up to NH with Ellie and
shadesong for the art retreat, and catch the bus back. Drag Ellie to see Scott Pilgrim, get groceries, and pick up the hair stuff I forgot last week. Make attempt number 4 at purple hair: bleach a thick streak and purple it, then update the rest to black.
another links before work kind of day
Sep. 2nd, 2010 08:30 am
zvi: LiveJournal automates privacy breech, breaks accessibility for small gains, and ... LiveJournal has automated crossposting of entries and comments to Facebook and Twitter.
There are two serious problems with their implementation, one to do with accessibility/usability and one to do with privacy.- via
dw_news: new update page demo
zarhooie: Friending Frenzy! What with the recent influx of new folk to Dreamwidth (thanks, LJ!), I think it's time for a friending frenzy. You know the drill: comment here with 3-5 reasons that people should follow you on Dreamwidth. Also comment with your favorite spice, your least favorite ice cream flavor and your bedding preferences.
rydra_wong: In this morning's LJ shenanigans
cleolinda reports that if you turn on Facebook connect, it will automatically put your full real name (as listed on Facebook) on your LiveJournal user page.
links before I head to work
Sep. 1st, 2010 07:55 am
oursin: More about money, extravagance, frivolity etc Such is the power of a-synchronicity, that it was only after making yesterday evening's post that I picked up Katharine Whitehorn's Only on Sundays, which of course fell open at the essay 'As Rich As You Feel', the vague memory of which lay behind much of my thinking in that post.
thingswithwings: while waiting for pain to subside, I wrote this post But the thing that really thrills me is seeing people get more and more efficient and matter-of-fact about their content notes, especially the content notes that are providing a warning for potentially triggering content. I don't credit kink bingo with this, but rather a shift in fandom thinking at large: I see more and more notes for things like forced feeding, self-harm, characters expressing racist sentiments, parental abuse, and all sorts of things - a range of things that reflects the broad manner in which people are beginning to think about how their story/artpiece might be read/viewed by someone with different life experiences than the writer's or artist's own. It feels to me, subjectively of course, that people in my fannish community are more and more willing to be upfront about what their story/artpiece contains, in order to provide the best possible information to potential readers. And that upfrontness, more importantly, is an indication of self-acceptance that I find extremely exciting and refreshing.
eruthros: some useful things on the internet 1. Are you, too, frustrated by the new lj facebook and twitter connect buttons under your comments? Fear not, for not one but two people have made magical solutions! Do not mess with tab order or people shall make greasemonkey scripts, lj.
whump: (no subject) The rest of the web is not the walled garden, Facebook is the walled garden, with a manifest destiny complex.
zulu: *flails* I just DON'T EVEN KNOW, livejournal. I JUST DON'T. Not to mention people could be automatically crossposting their comments to any post you made. Triangulation is suddenly that much simpler for stalkers, abusive exes, and potential or current employers. Any work you've put in to keep your fandom presence separate from your real life or professional presence is suddenly tissue paper where once it was at least nice sturdy cardstock. Feedback on your latest PWP that says "Fuck, you write hot man-on-man action, I totally got off to that," could end up side-by-side with your grandma's cookie recipe.
Lazy Femme
Aug. 26th, 2010 08:34 pmAs mentioned in this earlier post of mine:
I want to write about "lazy femme," which is what I call my gender presentation. In short: I like things like skirts and makeup, but I don't generally bother with these more effortful bits of gendered plumage.
I like femininity. I like pink and glitter and high heels and lace and whatever. That kind of stuff is fun to play with; I'm also attracted to femininity in other people.
( I am not, however, very good at doing femininity. )To sum up: I guess I'm kinda sorta femme? Why am I not more femme? Because it's haaaaaaard. Therefore: lazy femme. The end.*
* This is a really sketchy and disjointed post; there may be more later. For now, it is done, but please feel welcome to ask for any clarifications and expansions in the comments.
Long post is really fucking long.
Aug. 23rd, 2010 10:46 pmNotes
Not dead! Back in Boston since Saturday, and already caught up on things!
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Just finished eating half the curry I made tonight; the other half is in the fridge. I am going to bring it to work tomorrow. Leftovers for lunch - it's almost like I'm a real grown-up!
Ellie and I went to the mall yesterday. We were supposed to get clothes for her. Instead, we got clothes for me. /o\ On the other hand, Hello Kitty rain boots in grown-up sizes, fuck yes.
I continue to experiment with purple hair. Attempt 3 (dark purple over failed single-process bleach-and-purple) is the best yet but still not quite right.
Grand Forks
( Spent nearly every waking moment with C., got to see my family, consumed much media. Was not really online. )Relationship Stuff
( :D! )We're planning more visits, and I convinced C. to install Skype. But I think my journal will stop being All About My Boyfriend now; he'll show up from time to time along with other important people in my life.
Memery
From Ask Me Anything:
Looking back, are you comfortable with the way you reacted when your sister came out to you?
Not really. :( I could have done more. I am especially disappointed with how little help I was to her in 2006/2007, her last year of high school, while she was trying to figure things out. True, I didn't have nearly as much knowledge of gender and trans* issues then, but I probably still could have been more supportive than I actually was.
But as far as her actual coming-out? I think I did okay then, although I didn't adjust to name-and-pronouns as fast as I would have liked, even if there is a specific reason for it (trying not to out her to Mom and Dad before she had the chance to tell them herself).
Links
( 10 links )Plans
Figure out Netflix. Buy more $5 vermouth for cooking.
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Aug. 16th, 2010 05:15 pmRecently
While I am still theoretically AFK, C. is playing video games so I'm online. Heh.
We've watched The Guild, Dr. Horrible (again), and Stranger Than Fiction. Yesterday, we saw Scott Pilgrim (and I suspect we might wind up seeing it again). Plus, you know, hanging out and stuff. :)
Scott Pilgrim
( So apparently I'm Ramona Flowers. (Not a review, may contain very basic spoilers.) )Links
( 4 links )Plans
C. and I are getting dinner with some more of his friends tonight. I still need to call my relatives and make plans with them.
Brief update.
Aug. 15th, 2010 06:05 pmI am in Grand Forks, getting spectacularly laid. \o/ More details in a post to the sex filter.
Actually getting to spend time with C. is awesome. This was such a good idea. We just fit together. I cannot stop smiling.
ETA: Scott Pilgrim fanworks. I need them. Point me to any and all fic, vids, art, kink memes, and whatever else you know of.
End of an era.
Aug. 14th, 2010 01:39 amMoment of silence, please, for my Really Really Ridiculously Gay Purse Strap.
The RRRGPS started with a black purse I bought at PacSun many years ago. It came with two interchangeable straps: one with pyramid studs and one with grommets. I preferred the latter, and eventually wove a rainbow shoelace through the grommets.
Then more rainbows: I slipped a bangle I wasn't wearing (bracelets tend to drive me nuts) onto the strap, and tied a ring onto the long end of the shoelace. Both were made of layered plastic, and I was pleased to have found a way to use them.
And then the buttons. An assortment of sizes on the front of the purse (I lost one in the pit at a TAI... show ages ago, another few fell off at random), and one-inch buttons attached to the shoelace. Some funny, some geographic allegiance stuff, but mostly queer pins.
I haven't used the purse in a really long time, because the strap was disintegrating. The snaps were working their way out of the fabric.
But there is still the other strap. I won't be able to thread the studded strap with a shoelace or cover it in little buttons, but I can just shift them to the body of the purse instead.
( photos )This post brought to you by "it's two in the morning and I tried to sleep, really I did, but I am too wound up to reach unconsciousness."
long post is long
Aug. 13th, 2010 12:25 amNotes
I'll be out of town August 14-21. While I'll have internet access, I have no idea how much I'll be online. But rest assured I'll catch up even if I can't keep up.
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Bosses and one reference desk person are away for the Society of American Archivists conference. Work is freakishly quiet.
Busy couple of days. Tuesday morning, I hauled a box of fun surprises to the post office (since the TSA probably frowns on taking rope in your carry-on), went to work, and then went to Diesel to meet up with
shadesong and receive my BARCC auction winnings: a lovely flogger. After that, I ran into Andra and spent forever telling her about C. (she kept asking questions, and I am still flush with omgyay).
Yesterday I got some purple dye, and this morning before work, I put it in my hair to see what it would do. Not a lot, as it turns out: my hair is too dark. Now it's even darker, with something of a blue cast to it. While kinda disappointing, it's not actually surprising, and it's definitely not a bad result.
Leaving for Grand Forks at stupid o'clock Saturday morning. Clothes are basically picked out, and toiletries are selected and quart-size bagged.
Memes
I know so little about you, I'm afraid my question is quite pedestrian! What would your dream job be?
Pretty close to what I'm doing right now. I want to be an archivist full-time, as my real grownup job. But I'm not thrilled with the idea of meetings and managing other people, which my bosses at work have to do. I just want to work with the collections.
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I want to write about "lazy femme," which is what I call my gender presentation. In short: I like things like skirts and makeup, but I don't generally bother with these more effortful bits of gendered plumage.
( 11 links )Plans
More packing, go to bed, sleep, get up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, finish packing, go to bed, get up, get on airplane, arrive in Grand Forks, get laid.
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Aug. 8th, 2010 12:53 amNotes
Ask Me Anything still open for questions.Recently
Ellie has painted the front room! It's light blue now, instead of salmon. I approve.
Also, I'm sneezing myself to death. IDK why. *drowning in own snot*
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Aug. 5th, 2010 09:48 pmNotes
Ask Me Anything is still open for questions.Recently
Tuesday, I came home early because my uterus attacked. After some tylenol, I was fine for a night out with friends: TOMB! Me, Ellie, Mark, Spider, Jordan, James, Gillis, Liam, and Tommy Toxic, with Cid as our guide. Lots of fun. :)We tried to get dinner afterwards, but apparently everything near Fenway Park that serves booze becomes 21+ during Red Sox games or something? IDEK. We went to Vic's instead, which I personally consider a much better choice.
Links
- Feministe: Where There's Smoke
Privilege is like smoke. When we’re living with it, you don’t notice it. It’s in the air. It’s all around us, invisible, ubiquitous. We don’t notice the privilege we share with others; we only notice what surprises our senses and our brains – the way I could smell pot smoke on someone, even when I was living with my cigarette-smoking parents.
- Geek Feminism: Nominate guests posts for Geek Feminism
We’re primarily interested in cross-posts from smaller blogs, in order to introduce our readers to sites they don’t know of yet, and to introduce writers to a larger readership. But if the author of a piece on a widely read website wants it to appear here, we’ll certainly consider it.
Notes
Yeah, I know. But getting used to the full-time job has been really rough this time around. IDK.
The BARCC Blogathon auctions are running through 2010-08-03, 17:00 Eastern.
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Work was fun today. In that special way where my eyes aren't used to contacts yet and I spent the whole day using a computer, and also in the way where one of the door alarms was going off pretty much all day because it was broken.
I was supposed to go to a concert tonight, but I just could not manage it. :( I napped instead. After I write this post, I'm going to go back to bed.
Signs I am tired: I am trying to read my dreamroll using ?ship=300. /o\
Retail Therapy
I ordered some stuff from Fire Mountain Gems over the weekend, and it shipped today. \o/ So that'll be here next Monday, approximately. Unfortunately, I can't bring my travel jewelry kit to Grand Forks. I don't think the TSA would approve of my pliers. :( :( :( Plus I am only bringing a carry-on. DNW to pay stupid fee for checked bag.
Interactive!
Ask Me Anything: You get to ask me any one question. Any question, which I will answer to the best of my ability without violating anyone else's privacy. I am the only person who can see the poll responses.
Poll #4000Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: None, participants: 2
Ask me anything!
( 4 links )Blogathon!
Aug. 1st, 2010 12:02 am
shadesong, as you may know, is Blogathonning for the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center. She is also running a charity auction, and is writing for each of the pieces from the auction. These were mine:We Met in February
The Awful Feeling of Knowing You Don't Remember No
Chains and Crippling Shoes
Bid on the auctions or sponsor 'song directly.
I should be asleep by now.
Jul. 30th, 2010 12:16 amNotes
I have come up with this little posting template (okay, I looked at
shadesong's journal and mostly borrowed her format) to help myself post more regularly. We'll see how it works...
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Tired; I stayed up too late chatting with C. And then after work today, I went to the Dating While Feminist event for three hours, which was very social and, as a result, kind of exhausting.
Oh, and the hem fell out of the bottom of my right trouser leg this morning; I fixed it with safety pins. Anyone in Boston know a good tailor? Convenient to Orange Line a plus, convenient to Northeastern a doubleplus. Some of my pants need fixing; pretty much all of them need shortening. *is too short for regular women's inseams but too tall for petites*
Yay for contacts! Although the left one is not feeling very happy. I am kind of wondering if I have it in backwards - but I can still see just fine! IDK whether having the lens inside out would actually affect vision correction, or just comfort.
Furthermore, my contacts claim they can be worn continuously for a week or daily for two weeks (taking them out to sleep); I think I'm going to have to go for the continuous end of things, because augh plucking lenses out of my eyes! Much much harder than sticking them in.
( Dreamwidth )Links!
- via
rivenwanderer: Riot Nrrd Comics |
riotnrrdcomics_feed
damned_colonial: Stretching a metaphor til it breaks So I was just chatting on IM with
epershand and I produced a whole theory about Perl and Python which I will now attempt to summarise for you.
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Jul. 28th, 2010 11:57 pmApologies for my epic failure at updating; I don't like to post when I'm behind on my reading. And speaking of my dreamroll... I am having to cut down on my subscriptions because I am overwhelmed. Bleh full-time job. I love my work, but I also love my internets. It is a sad time for me.
Important things:
- Every year,
shadesong does Blogathon for the Boston Area Rape Crisis Center. Her fundraising includes a charity auction; I have three pieces in the mix this year: Chains and Crippling Shoes, We Met in February, and The Awful Feeling of Knowing You Don't Remember No. Plus lots of other really lovely things that you should go and bid on! - I am going to Grand Forks! I'll be staying with C. and will also take the opportunity to hang out with Ellen and Greg, since I missed them in New Orleans this year. I am not sure what that will do to my internet time: on the one hand, C. and I will probably be very occupied with each other, but on the other hand, I can easily see us just chilling together with our laptops for a little while every day. At any rate, I will be out of Boston from August 14th to August 21st.
- Speaking of C., we are now officially in a relationship! We put it on Facebook and everything. Current relationship status is "open" although there's an unspoken expectation that we'll be functionally monogamous at least until we can talk about it in person. There will be a more *ahem* detailed update later - hooray for filters.
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Jul. 22nd, 2010 03:00 pm- I am behind. I am really behind on my dreamroll, and my link-posting, and also my sleep. I know this and I definitely plan to catch up, although that might not happen until the weekend, because...
- I have an internet date with C. tonight. Since we can't actually hang out in person, we are going to hang out using the magic of the interwebs and watch Dr. Horrible.
- Trying to figure out when I can visit him; definitely not the week of SAA, since both my higher-ups here in the archives will be doing the professional conference thing. Maybe soon after that?
- I also have to find time tomorrow or Saturday to get myself to Watertown and drop off my Blogathon auction pieces with
shadesong. But first I have to take pictures and finish writing up the descriptions. - And on Saturday, I'm seeing one of the Shaken Up Shakespeare plays that have been so wildly popular. With
stultiloquentia, who I missed at Con.txt, and also
kyriacarlisle, I believe. And at least one other person whom I have not yet connected to a journal. - I have been reworking my tags and dealing with imported content. My goals are to make my old entries accessible to either the general public or my access list (except for the ones that make me cringe, which can damn well stay private), and to make my tags make sense. (I would be focused on forcing the "evil ex boyfriend" tag out of the tags module in my layout, but as most if not all of those entries are private, no one but me can see it.)
- Art Retreat at Wyrding Studios. !!!!!! Yes plz. Ellie will drive me up because then she's already in New Hampshire and can go to their lumber yards.
Just one link today.
Jul. 20th, 2010 12:35 amAn illuminating moment for me came at my post-op party. We called it a “boob party” and spent the night celebrating chests. Everyone brought magazine clippings or photos of chests and we pasted them on the wall in the stairwell. We kept a running list of all the euphemisms for chests we could think of on the whiteboard usually reserved for intra-apartment communications like We need milk and Has anyone seen my watch? and HEY GUYS I LET THE CATS PEE ON THE SOFA (just kidding it’s water).
At this party, every guest was invited to wear whatever made their chest feel good. Some went topless, some chose corsets—we even supplied glitter-encrusted adhesive craft foam for those who wanted to make pasties (the majority of our guests chose this option, which was just another sign that my life is nothing like what my guidance counselors envisioned).